The many issues that one has to go through in life.
For most of my life I have seen people with troubled lives, married, divorced, singles.
Their commonly used phrases:
Don’t get married girl,’ Stay a spinster,’
Men are up to no good, ‘ What is a man?’
Why should other women feel the same if those couldn't get it right from the beginning?
It takes knowledge to meet the right person, which includes understanding, and communication, no relationship will work at its best level, but if you focus on your feelings, when two people connect there is chemistry between them which makes it possible, but afterwards it is about how you understand each other, a big part of a relationship that most people tend to ignore.
Loving your partner doesn't make everything perfect, the many divorces of today compared to twenty to thirty years ago is at an an astounding rate.
Years ago when couples got married they focused on arranged marriages, for taking responsibility of their children, and followed their traits from generations, it was really different, a vow taken was for better or worse and not many thought about life beyond that, life was about having children and raising families and not having much of a career, in most cases these factors didn't matter. Arranged marriages are still being practiced in most cultures to this present day.
Now with the improvement of a modern life one understands the world better, and realizes that there are reasons for getting into a relationship, and has to know more about the other person involved before making decisions, if you in tend on spending your whole life with someone, you shouldn't be making commitments when you are not able to stay together.
Think in advance.
People have generally become unhappy with each other because of new standards of living. Modern life has become demanding, and living busy schedules has made it different. Not many couples want to get married, a single life is preferable for most men and women, and some how it just seems right, whereas at one time marriage and raising a family at a young age, at least for most people, was the appropriate thing to do.
Single or married, a person is still happy in their own way. A choice that is made freely, not every one will find a soul mate, especially, if they are looking for someone to suit their levels. At one time nobody had that choice of finding that someone special, it was in most cases already decided for them.
The many issues that one has to go through in life.
So, when you look at how the way life has changed, it has made you not only know more, but also challenged your lifestyles.
With more choices you are allowed to experience life in the way you choose, your very own choices that nobody can take away.
Attitudes, attractiveness, cheating, challenges, desperation, inventions, and shaping of the world are what you are faced with, and shouldn't feel out of place because your failures teach you to go forward, and achieve what you want to become successful in your connections to people that you choose to be your partners.
Sometimes you neglect yourself, look unattractive, and unhappy when single, because what you desire is not coming your way and a feeling of desperation arises.
Your life shouldn't be reflected on our parents or our past experiences, focus on your present one, present lives should matter and your future, and don’t dwell in the past, it only ruins your present life and it means you don’t have much of a life. Don’t cheat yourself on having a good relationship just because of your failures, or of some one else’s relationship, that didn't make it to marriage, enjoy what you have not what could have or what didn't happen for you. Starting a new life is hard, but you can’t pass every test in front of you.
You met somebody dated for a while and decided to make the next step, move in together, and if it all goes well, try some morning sex, it is the best, a great treat for both of you. As a couple you become quite comfortable with each other, living together, and getting to know the traits of one another.
Years go by and you are still in the same way living together, you are either scared to take a chance on love or not ready for a commitment. A sign of insecurity.
What is important to you?
Do you know when you are ready for marriage?
Why do you fear risking what you have?
Are you afraid of loving someone?
Sometimes past experiences put you off from taking a chance on relationships. Marrying your childhood or college sweetheart, is not what every one wants to do, and what you acknowledge about your partner is of importance to you.
A complicated life is what most people have, not knowing of what to decide and do with their lives, try harder, you will get what you want if you give it time, and eventually all will work out for you.
How do you choose your date?
Do you have the right man?
What are your inspirations?
Showing devotion, have a sense of family, if you choose to be married, show interest in having time for your family, take part in discussions, and consider issues too.
Enjoy your days of freedom, when you marry life changes, you will have other responsibilities, and busy days too.
Are you still waiting for your father to have that conversation with you?
The childhood moments, and the the facts of life that changes you daily, sex, money, marriage, success, religion and family discussions.
You benefit from your father’s lessons learned in his life, he could have been a quite person or someone that would only want the best for his child, even in the best father and son, or daughter relationships you will find the most uncomfortable familiarity that inhibits all from talking like friends. It is not like our fathers didn’t have much to say to their children, but sometimes too much.
They had lived through some bad experiences too, losing women, have once raised difficult children along their years, met up with all sorts of people, the good and the bad, they have seen their own careers, and had many encounters with life that made them who they are in their prime years. However, fathers and their children don’t have an idea of how to start a proper conversation.
They would rather speak of cars, and sports to their sons,but never about the facts of life. Issues are often avoided in this way.
The problem is that most men want their sons to follow in their footsteps and look up to them as their heroes.